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[quote=Anonymous]My daughter will be three at the end of August.  All of her life, I have spoken to her in German.  In her first year of life, I stayed home with her and spoke to her in German while my husband spoke to her in English.  Once she started daycare (English speaking) at my university, my husband generally spoke to her in German as well when we were at home.  We also all go to a German-speaking "round-ups" on Saturdays.  Husband and I are both Americans, he learned German in the army and my mother, a first generation American, spoke to me in German (as her mother, who was an immigrant from Germany, did to her) By the time I was about three, my mother started teaching me Latin.  I attended a German-English grade school and a high school that focused on languages.  Thanks to my mother (and schools) all languages come to me easily and I have always been a good student with no language delays in English.

My daughter's language skills in both languages have always been very strong.  My mother-in-law was not on board with our raising a bilingual child, especially in German, but never harped on it and changed her mind when she realized how well our daughter was doing in both languages.

Now, we have enrolled our daughter in a French-American bilingual preschool.  This school is within two blocks of where I work which is important to me.  The school is for children who don't speak French (or don't speak it well) and has lessons in both English and French as well as all teacher being bilingual in French/English. And my mother-in-law is VERY, VERY against our sending her to this school. She says it will confuse her to the point of our daughter hating school and falling behind and delay her learning the basics.

My mother-in-law is harping on this and voices her opinion every chance she gets.  Every time I speak to her, every time she visits, every time my husband speaks to her...  it has been relentless since March (when daughter was accepted into this school and we made the decision to send her there) and she does not seem to be letting up anytime soon.

I'm already tired of hearing about it and cannot fathom an entire summer of her protestations.  And who knows if she will stop once our daughter is actually attending.  My husband, a get-along-kind-of-guy, thinks we should just grin and bear it until his mother sees how well our daughter does in school but I honestly don't think I can stand hearing her talk about what a mistake we are making for another year.   I want to tell her to stop talking about it - politely and respectfully (at least to start) - and am now so angry that I'd be willing to tell her off if she continues.

What would you do?  My mother-in-law loves our child and has always been a good grandmother up until now.  I fear her constant protestations in front of our daughter will eventually make her anxious about her new school and, honestly, I cannot stand to hear one more word about it.   [/quote]

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