Reply to How often do you travel to see close family members without kids?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "How often do you travel to see close family members without kids?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dude, it'll cost you twice as much to bring the kids.  I have to imagine it'd be nice to spend some time with your sis and BIL without watching the kids.  So just be straight with your sister about it.  Tell her that if you're going to travel it's easier (AT THIS POINT) to do it without the kids. If she really wants to see the kids, she can come to you, but you and DH would be more than happy to come up and visit with them and have some adult time. It's possible a few years in the future they'll be the ones with little kids and you'll be in the easier place of heading out their way more often.  [/quote]

Thanks!  This is what I'm trying to do but I'm being told (not by sis) that it isn't fair to make them do all the traveling to see the children.  Although it isn't sis who is telling me that I think she probably feels like that somewhat too but won't say it to me.  I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being unreasonable here.  Yes, in the future it will be reversed when she has young children and I would definitely go there more often then.  She and BIL are a little short-sighted though and honestly have NO clue how hard it is to have 3 children under 4.  [/quote]

PP here. As my mom would say "Life's not fair."  I have a sister who is 5 years younger and single, and I know sometimes she feels put upon to come visit me and the kids.  Decency and a good relationship require acknowledging the basic unfairness and then talking about what you can reasonably do.  Thank her for putting up with it now and talk about plans for how things can change in the near future ("Maybe when youngest is 2 we can all come up to your place/ meet at a beach/ go to Disney World/ whatever"). And then you follow through on that when it makes sense.  In the meantime the fairest thing you can do is to be sure to let your sister how much you appreciate her and how lucky the kids are to have such a great aunt. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics