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[quote=Anonymous]Man here.
I'm 31 and have been in your guy's shoes. There have been women who initially drew me in and I really, really felt like the relationship might go somewhere. Once the infatuation wore off however, I started to notice things that I wasn't sure I could deal with on an ongoing basis. They weren't complete deal breakers, but personality quirks. Still, the good outweighed the bad and I didn't feel the need to cut them off because I thought it might be something I could live with. Unfortunately, in some cases, they told me they were in love or asked me for a commitment. I broke things off, not because I was afraid of commitment (I only date one person at a time), but because commitment represents finality to me. It's me saying, Yeah you're someone I could see myself marrying one day.

I've been in committed relationships where I've tried to just commit and hope for the best. "It's not like we're getting married tomorrow or anything" is what I thought in those situations. It was hard, because then I felt like I couldn't leave the person once I realized that I wasn't happy with them. We may have dated for 3-4 months and then made things serious, but the collective length of the relationship is the better part of a year. That's when I felt like I was staying out of pity or something. I didn't want to see that person hurt because she seemed SOOOO happy and I just couldn't break up with her right before Valentine's Day/Her Birthday/Right after her relative passed/Right before the holidays...you get my point.

Sorry to make this so long, but be thankful that you got the truth upfront rather than finding out down the road after you went from "falling in love" to "completely in love." Your person will come, but don't rush it or force it. [/quote]

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