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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Try courting instead of dating. Make it clear upfront that you want a serious relationship with the aim of finding out if you would be a good marriage match. Stop sleeping with guys when you aren't sure about your relationship status.[/quote]

Guy here and: 1) my sympathies, unrequited love sucks the worst, 2) the quoted poster has a great suggestion.  Make it clear when you start something new with someone (and in your profile(s) if you have them online) that you are looking for a long term commitment - that you are not looking for casual dating.

It sounds like this guy has some reservations about getting committed to anyone.   He may have emotional intimacy/trust issues and was being open/honest with you about that when he said he is slow to develop feelings.

Infatuation and mature love are two different things - but that sugar-high infatuation happens relatively quickly - 6 months is a very long time.  Generally people go through an infatuation phase which then gives way to more in-depth love.  It's not a hard-and-fast rule, just a generalization.  It sounds like you are correctly perceiving the situation and you have developed stronger feelings than he has...and six months is taking it at a very sane/stable pace.  Don't beat up on yourself for being emotionally available - you sound like you wish you were more unavailable (like he is) which would result in two emotional cripples, not just one.

Good luck![/quote]

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