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[quote=Anonymous]Dear DCUMs:
I wonder if anyone can provide any inspiring weight-loss stories.  I am 5'2" and weigh 158 pounds.  The appropriate BMI for my height is up 115 to 136 pounds.  I wear a size 14, which is not great for someone who is 5'2".

I was always in a normal weight range (albeit at the top of the range) and loved exercising, until after my 3rd child was born about 3 years ago.  That, in combination with a worry about my department being cut in a cost-cutting measure, made my life feel a bit overwhelming.  I felt guilty taking time to exercise because I wanted to spend all spare time after work with my kids.  I also started the bad habit of snacking in the evenings after putting the kids to bed.

Over the weekend, my husband (an otherwise good guy) told me that he's embarrassed of my weight.  My DH is very fit, and had never directly criticized me before for my weight.  But over the weekend, after he'd had too much to drink at a neighborhood BBQ,  I asked him to watch his drinking (because he'd acted in an embarrassing way -- by repeating himself and forgetting obvious things).  He countered that, if I'm embarrassed of his behavior, well he's embarrassed of me because of my weight.  I don't know if he remembers saying it, but he definitely said it.  Maybe it's something he has felt for  years, but only now had the "courage" to say.

My DH is not necessarily super good looking, but he is thin and fit.  Although he's never before criticized my weight directly, he's always quick to point out when someone he works with is "fat," or when one of our neighbors is "fat."  I always fully understood his not-so-subtle hints.

Aside from my weight, my life appears to be pretty well together.  I have a good career (make slightly more than DH once you include bonus, profit-sharing and stock).  (I could support the kids and me if needed.)  The kids are healthy and, for the most part, seem pretty well-adjusted.  I fake my way at appearing content with everything in life.

I know how great and awesome it feels to be thin and in shape.  I somehow just need to get myself jump-started.  With full-time work, and the obligations of 3 kids, I still feel overwhelmed.  My DH is a full partner in terms of childcare and cooking, and so I don't have the excuse that I don't have time to exercise.  I just need to eat fewer snacks and less late-night snacking.  But taking off the weight takes discipline!

My initial reaction upon hearing his comment was not even to cry.  He makes a good point -- I am embarrassed of my weight too.  Just need to motivate.

Thanks for any inspiring stories of weight loss.  Anyone else ever been told by their husband that their weight is embarrassing?

Thank you.[/quote]

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