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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it is just a visit, we would just feed the kids before we went.   I'd love for my kids to eat everything and we try very hard, but its a losing battle at this point.[/quote]

Unfortunately these are extended visits/trips -- three to four days usually.  This past weekend there were five other adults in the house (her husband and two couples) as well as my two children, and she wanted to be in charge of every single morsel that went into everyone's mouth, and the volume and the quality of the food she pushes is decidedly unhealthy.  It upsets her to see my six year old eating a banana, for example, because she wanted to saute it and provide a dipping sauce for it.  I actually like her a lot and enjoy her company, but the food issues are becoming the dominant force in our visits and it's really frustrating.[/quote]

Then if she is your friend, you need to say something. And you just need to jump in and lay it all out. No beating around the bush. This is getting in the way of your relationship. If you're not willing to do that, then the visits need to stop.

If you do choose to say something, you might try this (or something like it): "Suzie, are you okay? Larla wanted a banana, just a plain old banana, and you insisted on sauteing it and making a sauce.  All of that is a lovely gesture. What concerns me is how frustrated and upset you got when I said no (or when Larla just left it there). You don't appear happy. I noticed that you often sulked after a meal. What's going on? Is everything okay? I really want to understand why you're visibly upset around meals." [/quote]

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