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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL cares for my kids a few days a week and has for a few years now.  Both of my kids are now in half-day pre-school so it's nice that she only has a few hours a day but you won't be able to do that with an infant.  But she did care for them all day before they went to school and it's worked out great.  However, my ILs are local so they have active social lives outside of our kids.  If your parents are moving here just for you, you will be their only "entertainment".  That might be a little exhausting.  In fact, we rarely, if ever, see my ILs on the weekend because she sees the grandkids all week.

I agree with others that if your parents aren't on the younger side, you need to consider their physical limitations.  My MIL is in her late 50s so it hasn't been that bad for her but I know she does get tired and I think she is a bit relieved that it is only half-days now that they are in pre-school.  We offered to pay her from the beginning and she laughed at us.  She said she would just put it into a college fund so that is what we do with the money we're saving.

Having said all of that, you do need to consider the relationship you have with your parents.  Are they the nagging type who will criticize everything you do?  Do they meddle in everything i.e your marriage?  My MIL is extremely laid-back and we have never had any issues with how she is caring for the kids (but I am pretty laid back too so I don't have very strict 'rules').  It has worked out wonderfully and I will be forever grateful to my MIL for what she has done for us.  I was very close to my grandparents growing up and want my kids to have the same relationship so I love this arrangement.

Congrats OP and good luck with everything![/quote]

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