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[quote=Anonymous]My mom relocated temporarily to care for DD for the first year. It's gone as well as I think it possibly could have, but my mother is very different from many grandmothers in that she completely respects and follows our parenting rules, stays out of my marriage, and often does her own thing outside of childcare hours. She and my husband also get along incredibly well. We do pay her, which I think is good, because I feel more comfortable saying how I want things done, and I'm not sure I would if she were taking care of my daughter for free. It's allowed my daughter to have one-on-one care with someone I really trust and who I know loves her like crazy. We also haven't had to deal with missing work constantly because the baby got sick at daycare.

That said, there are some drawbacks. First, my mom is in her 50s, so much younger than many grandparents, but taking care of my daughter is still tiring for her.

The biggest drawback, and what has made the situation hard, is the lack of alone time that we are now faced with. Before my mom lived with us, when my husband worked late or went out, I would have the house to myself. I no longer do. My husband and I also no longer have our evenings alone together either. This caused some strain for us for a little while until we recognized what was going on. The lack of individual alone time is still an issue, and a big one for me since I really need my alone time.

While I'm glad my mom stayed with us and took care of the baby, I am looking forward to having it just be my immediate family in the house when she returns home.[/quote]

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