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[quote=Anonymous]Please help me with how to handle my husbands parents.
There MO is to visit our house twice a year for 3 weeks long, whenever cheapest and most convenient for them. They just want to "see us", however we both work full time. Thus it quickly becomes a situation where they are living in our home, eating through everything, and using everything they can find. Lamps break, appliances break, they make my husband grocery shop for them every three days at 8pm after dinner as they are very particular about their fruits, veg, berris, tea, bread, etc.
They don't go put ever, on weekends they don't want to do anything with an admission or eating out unless my husband pays. And they never ever say Thank You.

They have plenty of money, they just don't like to spend it. My husband bends over backwards for them but once in awhile gets enough guts to ask them to get their own groceries, as they are eating 3-4 meals a day in our house plus snack, drinks. When they so this they only buy food for themselves the next couple days, never replenish what they've used up (olive oil, spices, frozen meats). They refuse to rent a car or do side trips tues thru Thursday.  We fly out to see them on major holidays and breaks, paying through the teeth of course for flights.  Ironically at their house they do two meals a day, though we are spa mix of things, including visiting various people during the day or for dinner, not sitting around 24/7.

Half of the problem is definitely my husband. He has poor verbal communication with his parents so expectations or anything else comes down to me and his parents seem quite set in their ways. Their parents treated them the same way, stuffing in their beach house for weeks never opening their pocketbooks and even demanding a cooked dinner served to them each time they came to babysit.

At this point, not sure what to do. When they come my husband reverts to a child where he thinks there are three people to do everything for him and he disappears into his home office for hours or works late. It's ridiculous.[/quote]

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