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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I love her very much, and this person seems very far removed from the woman who graduated summa cum laude from a top 10 university, and has 2 masters.  She just totally changed after the birth of her first child 3 years ago.[/quote]

I think there is a clue here on how to help her. You mention that she has totally changed, but I don't think so. The demons that she was temporarily successful at quelling through years of superior performance and achievement have resurfaced. She is still pulling allnighters in pursuit of a goal, it's just that the goal isn't collecting masters degrees, it's collecting offspring. You knew her then -- try to understand how she hasn't changed, how maybe these issues were overlooked or even supported previously. See if that gives you some insight into helping her recognize them and address them now. The problem isn't her caretaking -- the problem is how her motivation process doesn't respond well to external developments, which means there is something internal that is steering her into taking unreasonable positions. I would bet that this internal derailment process has been there all along, but previously it manifested in more socially acceptable ways (or she was more successful in channeling it into approved outcomes). [/quote]

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