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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, you should see a therapist to help navigate much of this both emotionally and logistically.

Second, I think given his recent past of not respecting boundaries etc., I would as him to write a letter to you with the details he wants to tell you. Tell him that you would consider corresponding with him by email or letter but that you don't feel comfortable talking to him at the moment. [/quote]

OP here: I've actually seen a therapist in the past to discuss all my issues with my mom growing up as there is so much more that I resent her for. I may reach out to that person again to discuss all of this. I just find myself getting really sad on and off ever since I received his new message yesterday.

Also to the PP's talking about my paragraph, I apologize. I was typing my main post on my iPhone so it was just easier to get it all out in one paragraph. [/quote]

PP here - good! Solid first step. I have crazy parental/family issues as well, so I know what you are feeling. I would point out that your anger towards your mom might be reflecting your anger at the situation and your dad than anything else-  and we all know kids (even grown ones) tend to be angry at the ones we know love us unconditionally. From an outside perspective, your mom really seemed to do what she thought was right. I'm not sure in her shoes what I would have done differently. So try not to be too angry with her until you really sort things out in your head.

I might help you to write down your feelings about both parents in a journal or letter to them (which you may or may not want to send later on.)[/quote]

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