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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I think you are still in the "I'm a young adult" stage, trying to establish your independence. My mom still does all kind of mom things because we will always be her kids. I doubt it has anything to do with her not seeing you as an adult and more with just wanting to be supportive and helpful in a motherly way. She is just doing nice things for you, not because she doesn't think you are capable or competent. Surely you do things for others that they actually have the capacity to do themselves.

I don't think getting care packages or having food brought to you or wanting to be together or worrying about you being alone has anything to do with her seeing you as a child rather than an adult. Just enjoy it and be grateful. 
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+1  You are being hypercritical of what is nothing more than nice gestures.[/quote]

+2. Go back in these posts and read how horrible some people's parents and in laws are. Like, truly pathological.  Then eat your snacks and thank your lucky stars you come from a normal family where your parents like you.[/quote]

OP here- thanks I needed that!  Funny thing is, I never thought much of all this until I met my DH- he just has a completely different relationship with his mom (not bad in any way, she's a lovely generous person, just more hands-off) and finds my mom a bit smothering. The children's books and bringing lots of food drives him bonkers- I had to beg her not to bring a turkey at thanksgiving!  [/quote]

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