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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For myself, I was definitely spoiled by growing up in a family where both my parents got along with their in-laws.  Even the in-laws get along with each other.

Looking back it was by no means perfect.  But when I think about my childhood, I get such a warm feeling.  It was basically a village mentality of child-rearing.  No one ever hired baby-sitters.  Children were just dropped off at an aunt's or grandma's house.  And when we were at someone's house, we just went by their rules.  I should ask my mom, but I don't ever remember her stressing about how much more lax other adults were with us than she was.

For example, at Grammy's house, there was always junk food.  Fruity Pebbles, sandwiches with white bread and mayo.  Someone would give each of us kids a dollar to go to the candy store.

At Grandmom's, she always let us do all kinds of messy projects, like play with flour and water at the kitchen table.  At the end, she would have us roll the dough flat into whatever shape we wanted.  Then she would fry it in a frying pan, put butter, and let us eat it.  My parents would never have time or patience to let us do something like that.  I have countless vivid memories of seemingly insignificant activities that seemed like such a big deal at the time.

Of course, I don't remember much before I was 5.  But I remember baby cousins always being around.  Same drill, parents would often just drop them off with their supplies and be on their way.  They talk about how my mom left me with my aunt for a week, when I was 1y.o.  No laundry list of specifics.  There was basic trust that another mother knew how to care for a baby.  It's a foreign idea to me when I read on DCUM how worried parents get about leaving their baby/child in general.  Unless someone was violent or alcoholic or something else extreme, the adults generally trusted each other to care for their children.

As an adult, my parents are my best friends, and they get along wonderfully with my husband.  I got such a strong foundation of family as a child, I couldn't imagine not having that.  And if you are still reading this unedited dissertation of mine, good for you.[/quote]
You made me smile.[/quote]

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