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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sure, I have no problem with telling my kids about my recreational use. It's part of a bigger conversation that we have about moderation, taking care of our bodies, making reasonable choices, and thinking for ourselves. I'll tell them that using pot occasionally, as an adult, is just fine and IMHO a lot safer than drinking. If I had to pick between my 18 year-old smoking a joint and my 18-year old drinking a bunch of beer, there's no question that I would prefer pot. My military husband who has no interest in using any drugs (or drinking) agrees and takes no issue with it.

We're trying to teach our kids about that line you can cross that makes it hard to come back from. The key issue here is moderation and responsibility. We'll talk about safety (no driving, just like alcohol), making choices when impaired (about sex, and friendships, just like alcohol), and what choices are reasonable and what aren't. So for us, pot or a few drinks are reasonable. Beer bongs and heroin aren't. Having safe sex in a relationship is reasonable (and fun). Random unsafe sex isn't. We keep our house vegan and talk a lot about good healthy food choices, but the kids are allowed to eat whatever they want at school or at friend's houses (guilt-free). For the most part, we need to make healthy choices, but a few cheeseburgers or an occasional joint aren't going to derail our lives. Getting pregnant, getting an STD, becoming a heroin addict - those really could derail our lives.

So far our kids are making really reasonable choices even when we're not around, which is the goal we're aiming for. My older son, for example, always wears his helmet when he rides his bike, whether we're home with him or not (his friends aren't required to, so he would totally get away with it). He just chooses to do it. He chooses, on his own, to get a vegetarian meal at school a few times a week instead of meat every day. That feels reasonable to him. He DOWNS a steak when he's out to eat with my Mom but also hits the salad bar hard. He's just remarkably mature and even-keeled. My younger son is coming along similarly. I'm incredibly proud of them.

My $02.[/quote]

(OP) I [u]really[/u] like this approach. Thank you so much for responding.[/quote]

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