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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't have any directly relevant experience, OP, but I am hoping my post may provide something helpful or some encouragement.  In my experience, any really major life change (like moving, or having a child) takes a full year to fully adjust to.  It's a process and things get better incrementally over time, of course, but for me it has always really taken a full year to feel adjusted to my new normal.  My point being: if this move is already planned and set, expect that you're going to feel out of sorts for a while, and give the new situation a full year before you consider making any further major changes in your life.[/quote]

I really agree with this advice to take an incremental approach. You might want to focus on very little short-term goals (rather than looking at the whole picture: we're losing our home, our garden, our friends, our community). For instance, you sound worried about the merger of work and family. I agree you're going to want to meet some people who aren't your family! You could have a short term goal of finding an activity --hiking? yoga? book club?-- or a class that gets you meeting some new people. Another example might be that you think about which room (after your LO's of course) in the new house would give you greatest comfort. Focus on that room. Get the furniture right, buy the stuff that makes that new room the room you feel most "at home." It's a long road, but if you approach it room by room, small project by small project, I really think you'll feel less depressed and overwhelmed.

GL![/quote]

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