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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife assaulted me - the third time in the past five months.  She started with whipping me with a pair of jeans she had in her hand.  I retreated to another room in the house where she continued punching and slapping at me - trying to get at my face.  My crime:  1) putting her bra in the drier; and 2) telling her that she has no right to speak disrespectfully and insultingly about my mother.

I threatened to call the police on her, which enraged her even more.  Eventually, I was just able to leave the house.  [/quote]

Right.   :roll:   You put her bra in the dryer and she started insulting/disrespecting your mother and then whipped/hit/punched you...

You didn't touch her.  You didn't instigate.  You are completely without fault in this situation, and posting to DCUM because you're terrified for your safety.  From the pants.

Don't "threaten to call the police" OP.  Do it.  Or don't.  But the fact that you're using it as a threat means you're more involved in this than you think.  Get out.  Call the cops.  Or don't.  Walk away and cool off.  Come back and talk when you're rational.

I suspect your put your wife's bra in the dryer after having done so multiple times and ruined multiple bras and been asked to not on multiple occasions.  Your mother is probably a monster-in-law who disrespects and insults your wife, which you allow because you can't stand up to her any more than you can stand up to your wife.

If you don't want to leave your wife, calling the cops because she hit you with a pair of jeans is a really stupid idea. While there is no excuse to hit, there's also nothing to gain by trying to punish your spouse if you'd like to remain married.  The police are going to escalate this situation without offering you much help you can't already find for yourself.  Posters above have given you links to local resources.  Call the police if you are in danger.

Evaluating your own behavior and how it has contributed to this situation is ALWAYS a sound plan.  If she's a pants-whipping ragebeast all the time, you need to figure out why you want to stay.  If she's pushed to the brink of completely losing her shit, you need to evaluate what, if anything, you can/will do about the underlying causes.

Counseling is a good idea for couples with problems who choose to try to stay together.  Knowing yourself and your own issues is key to making counseling work.[/quote]

Hi OP's wife![/quote]

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