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[quote=Anonymous]I am going to visit my family in my home state in a few weeks.
I haven't been there in over 5 years.  I do see my mother every 1.5 years or so.  My father actually moved to my area several years ago.
While I'm there, I plan to visit both my mother's family and my father's family.
My parents have been divorced for almost 30 years.
I mentioned to my mother that I planned to take a full day (out of 6) to meet with my father's sister and that we plan to drive 2-3 hours to visit my other aunt and grandmother (dad's mom).  She said "Oh good!  I haven't seen them in years!  It will be nice to see them again."
I told her that I would be going alone and I gave her two reasons.

1.  This is my father's family.  There is really no reason for her to go with me.

2.  My mother is extremely physically handicapped as the result of two lifestyle-induced strokes.  She relies on a wheelchair.  Most places are not wheel-chair friendly.  She usually has to leave her wheelchair outside (which she bitches about) and has to sit on a couch for the remainder of the visit (which she also bitches about.) My mother needs help even using the restroom.  She can barely walk and is completely parylized on the right side of her body.  She also is very, very overweight.  It is very difficult for me to help her in and out of cars, up and down stairs and I can definitely not lift her if she falls (which she does frequently).
She also has issues with incontinence.  Being in the car for hours at a time(meaning she will have to stop for bathroom breaks frequently)and stopping at the homes of several people will be exhausting.  I will have to devote most of my attention, energy and time helping her instead of relaxing and enjoying my family.

When I told her this, she lost her s**t.  She said that I was exaggerating the amount of assistance she needs.  I'm not!
She also said that they are still her family and she has the right to see them.  
I stuck to my guns and now she's pissed at me.
This always happens when my sister, brother-in-law and nephews visit her.  If they take a day to visit someone else, she cries and accuses them of not caring about her.  It's flipping exhausting.  I know she misses us and wants to spend time together but she doesn't seem to understand that she isn't the only person we want to see.
Is it unreasonable to not want to drag her around the state to visit MY family?
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