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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Um, I'm one of those pretentious intellectual guys.  I think you can overcome this, if you all have some shared interests - you don't have to both be into the same stuff all the time.  As other people said, you don't have to be into exactly that stuff, it's not a competition.

But you have to be OK with it - not feeling insecure or jealous.  I had a passionate relationship with someone who was not an 'intellectual' (she was highly intelligent) but one of the things that eventually wrecked us was this issue - her feeling insecure and inadequate.  The reverse snobbery chip on her shoulder got in the way of everything and I had to walk on eggshells about that (among many things).

Generally, it really helps to have a similar set of interests and education.  One of the best conversation partners I had was a lovely woman who is a philosophy professor - we actually did talk about Hume and Locke a lot in the couple of months we dated.  [/quote]

I'd agree with this - that if you have enough other things in common, it can work. But I'd imagine this'll be a problem for a long time. (I'm also one of these insufferable people - but a woman. And my husband is like this, too. It's part of why we get along so well. Husband isn't into some of the other things I like a lot - hiking, outdoors stuff - which is our bugaboo.)

Anyway, prbly best in the end to be with someone you're happy with, not always feeling insecure around, right? Is there a rush for you to commit to this guy if you're not really psyched with how things are going?[/quote]

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