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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi I'm wondering if I could get some advice on here. Been in a year long relationship with a very, very intellectual man - he's a software developer and around my age (late twenties). We have a respectful and loving relationship and quite a few of the same goals (where we want to live, etc) and we had the same cultural upbringings so he gets my family and I get his family. I love him very much but I increasingly feel left out of certain parts of his life, even though I'm sure he doesn't mean to do it. When we go out with his friends, they have very deep conversations about things like comparing Hume and Locke, or rococo vs baroque art, and talk about literature and complex legal issues and things like that. I just don't know anything about this stuff. I have a college degree and a job and I like to think that I am a smart and worthy human being, but I've never really been interested in art or philosophy. [b]He tries to take me to art galleries and teach me about things he reads, but I don't particularly enjoy it and I feel forced, and then I feel inadequate when his super-smart female friends or the super-smart girlfriends of his male friends have these conversations with him. [/b]I know he is disappointed that I don't find it interesting and I wonder if he thinks less of me.

I know he loves me and I think I take good care of him and we have fun together, but I don't like feeling inferior to him and feeling out of place with his friends. Can this work?[/quote]

First off, some of these "super smart" people are probably trying to impress each other.  Not everyone is interested in the works of Nietsche.  Or art.  Some people like politics, others like understanding mechanical things.  My sister is a master of foreign languages - have never heard her talk about philosophy.  On another angle, I dated someone who was a teacher and absolutely wonderful with making an impact on children.  OP, we all have our special interests.  Is art and philosophy the only things he is interested in?[/quote]

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