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[quote=Anonymous]I've been trying to explain to DH how small lies, usually him neglecting to leave out information, make me upset. He says that they are no big deal, focusing on the act, but for me not telling me things is disrespectful. He usually omits information because he'd rather not deal with my annoyance. Some examples:

1) Calling from the office to say he's coming home, but then stopping by the CVS or wine shoppe for a quick purchase of beer.
2) Being late picking up DC from practice, calling another parent to pick DC up because he's running really late, then picking DC up from the other parent's house to come home. Then, once at home, not telling me about it because DC did get picked up to come home.
3) Telling me that he's going to grab a burger on the way home because he's hungry. I say we have Pete's Apizza at home. He says, OK, great, I'll have that then. Then decides he's hungry anyway, gets the burger, and then comes home without mentioning it. I find the receipt later.
4) Having a boy's night out. I ask where they went, what they did, how it went, etc., etc. He tells me they went to the sports bar, the restaurant, the cigar bar, but omits to mention to strip club--which I ask about because there is a wad of dollar bills left in his pocket.

I KNOW these are lies that are inconsequential in and of themselves--and I don't even really care that they went to a strip club as a group of guys--but what bothers me is that he regularly leaves out details that he knows I would be interested in because he'd rather just not deal with me. And the ironic thing is that I would be so much less annoyed if he was forthright and said, "I ended up getting a burger anyway because I was so hungry!" I'd most likely say, "OK, no problem. There's still pizza if you want more."

Thoughts? Do all guys do this? I've tried to explain to DH that it's not the acts themselves, which I admit are small potatoes, it's the intentional evasion that erodes my tryst. Also, the fact that he lies about small stuff makes me wonder about how he will evade telling me about bigger things.[/quote]

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