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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am going through a really difficult time in my life.  I have a ton of work stress, two small kids, and a marriage that is on the rocks.  I am prone to depression and anxiety and am really struggling with both.  I see a counselor weekly.  I exercise.  I try to eat well instead of reaching for junk (but sadness tastes like chocolate and there's only so much I can do about that).  I don't drink or use drugs.

I don't have a huge social circle (social anxiety), but I have several friends I consider close.  All of them are aware of my current struggles.  None of them have done anything to check in with me, take my kids for a few hours so I can catch a break, have me over for dinner, invite me anywhere...  I know everyone is busy with their own lives, but I'm really frustrated that people I call friend just "don't have the time" to spend with me.  I am always the friend who is there for everybody else.  I'm the friend who brings soup to sick friends, is a sounding board for frustrated/sad friends, and is always on duty when someone needs emergency childcare or breaks.

I feel like my "friends" aren't, and that's really tough to deal with.  Especially with everything else that's on my plate.[/quote]

I wish you well OP.  In situations like this, I think it's always good to do a self-check. When you are in a situation where you think everyone else is doing you wrong, sometimes it is good to look at yourself, and think what am I contributing to the situation? How do your friends know what  you need? Have you thought that your anxiety may also make them feel pressured? If you have few friends do you depend on them a little too heavily? Do you make them feel anxious at all because they may feel that you need something that they cannot give or what they give is not good enough for you? I am saying that you should think about these things, some may ring true, some may not. [/quote]

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