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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it a little odd if parents can't muster enthusiasm for where their child is going to school. Sort of seems like they'd have made peace with that.

Don't be so quick to assume with other parents that it's always one-man-upmanship. Life should be about sharing and connecting. If we all close ourselves off and are so self-protective, much of the joy gets sucked out of life.[/quote]

I absolutely agree!

OP, it could be that this friend is a really proud parent who wants to tell the world about her child's accomplishments and only asks about yours so as to not seem impolite. It may not be one upmanship at all.

I also agree that if you can't muster enthusiasm for your child's accomplishments that is something you need to work on. If you don't feel a sense of pride in where your child is going, DC likely won't either. My DC was accepted at pretty good schools but not an ivy or the most selective like WM and UVA. However, I speak of DC's college acceptances with pride. I also let DC know I'm impressed and thrilled as well. As a result, so is DC.

The college application process was much more involved and daunting than I thought it would be. I checked in with parents along the way just to share the journey. One parent's child did get into a school that's often mistaken for an ivy, but that didn't stop me from sharing news with her along the way. She cheered my child along the way and I was proud of hers too.

Yes, there are some things that are personal and should remain private family affairs, but college acceptances is not one. Your friend's questions are not intrusive at all.[/quote]

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