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[quote=Anonymous]We usually spend Christmas with my husband's family.  While I don't dislike all of them, we are very different people with different values and views on just about everything.  This holiday gathering has always felt like a command performance to me, but I know it is important to DH and, in fairness, our kids usually have a good time.  So I go and keep my mouth shut.  Last year, however, BIL showed up very sick with some sort of an exotic cold/flu.  He knew that he was sick and that there was a pregnant woman (not me) and a number of small children in the house.  He showed up anyway because he wanted to introduce his new girlfriend to the family.  Instead of staying in his room, he walked all over the house, coughing in a rag all the while.  I was appalled, but seemed to be the only one.  It was not my house so I didn't feel right saying anything (and didn't want to be accused of trying to sabotage the holiday because DH knew I didn't particularly want to be there).  It was only a couple of days before we all got very sick.  I had taken 10 days off at Christmas hoping to spend time with my mom, who came from another state to see me, instead I got her sick too.  We were miserable, our holidays were ruined, it took my mom months to recover from this, and my DD, who was not at all sick that fall/winter, is still getting sick every couple of weeks (the illness really did a number on her immune system).  I tried to address this with FIL and BIL but all I got back was incomprehension as to why I was so upset.

I will admit that I have had a lot of issues with DH's family over the years but generally kept my mouth shut to keep the peace.  But BILs selfishness and others' lack of empathy really did it for me.  I do not want to go back this Christmas and DH and I are already arguing about it and it's only April.  What would you do?

NB, DH and I have been together for nearly two decades and while we have our moments (who doesn't?), he is generally a wonderful father and a good man.  [/quote]

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