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[quote=Anonymous]This is a bone of contention between my boyfriend and I. We have been discussing getting married recently and our conversations have gotten into things like this.

My parents paid for my degree from a public, in-state university and said that was it. They would have paid the comparable amount of in-state public tuition had I opted to go out-of-state or private, but I chose to take them at their word. They also said if I wanted to do grad school, I'm on my own. They are doing the same thing for my brother who is in school now at my alma mater. I really appreciated this and would like to do the exact same thing for my kids.

On the other hand, my boyfriend is one of 6 kids. It was obviously not financially feasible for his parents to pay for tuition for all of their kids, so they chose to not pay or assist at all. So he took out a ton of loans and is still paying them off and is salty about it. He doesn't want to pay for any of his kids' tuition, and I fundamentally disagree with this.

I know how stressful it would have been for me (and I did have a part-time job for my entire 4 years in college!) to foot all the tuition and expenses on my own and I likely would have taken more than 4 years to finish and end up with a s***-ton of loans. I am forever grateful to my parents for helping me avoid this.

But this has become a real sticking point with my potential fiancee and I. I don't think we will ever fundamentally agree and we will likely come to a compromise by saving what we can in addition to retirement for the kids' colleges but they will likely end up with some loans also.[/quote]

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