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[quote=Anonymous]Age 30 
Ethnicity Me: White/DH:biracial
HHI about 100K.

What is your parenting style? 
Authoritative. I'm a big fan of Alfie Kohn, with a good dose of free-range and Montessori tossed in. When kids are under 3, we're pretty strongly attachment parenting (bedsharing, baby-wearing, etc). As far as academics go, my oldest is K age, but we're in a Montessori school and plan to stay through the end of elementary. Everyone plays at least one rec sport, learns to play the piano and one other instrument and takes a 2nd language. Those things are not negotiable and we've already started. I'm big on exposure and exploring, I want my kids to enjoy learning for the sake of learning, not just as a means to an end. I expect my kids to be well-rounded, self-sufficient and articulate, but not necessarily the best at what they do. Grace and courtesy is huge at home, I expect polite and kind behavior, I'd rather have a kid with great character than an academic/athletic superstar (and that's what we focus on).

Do you plan/ or did you pay for your children's college? Graduate School? 
We are setting aside money, but realistically, won't be able to cover all of it. We both worked, took out loans and got scholarships to supplement what our parents could give us, we expect the same for our kids. I went to community college my first year and worked FT through undergrad, DH worked PT and went Ivy. Whatever we set aside, it will be the same amount for each kid, DH's parents paid full-freight for one kid and not another, it caused a lot of issues and resentment. We WILL counsel them heavily about loans though, we'll be paying ours off until we're 100 and want our kids to have a better understanding of debt than we did.

Would you encourage your children to live with you to save money after graduating college? Would you make them pay rent? 
They will always be welcome. Both DH and I have lived with our parents at some point as adults, we'll approach it the way our parents did: We paid nominal rent, helped out with household chores and maintenance, acted like and were treated like adults (no curfew, but we were respectful and didn't disturb others in the house) and there was a set timeline/plan for moving out.

Will you pay for your son/ daughter's wedding? 
We'll gift them a set amount of money that can be used as they wish.

Assuming your health holds up and you are located geographically close how involved would you like to be in your grandkid's life?
Hopefully imitating our parents again! My parents are close and we see them once a week for family dinners, they babysit overnight once a month, during the day once a month and take the kids (once they hit 4) for 2 weeks in the summer. DH's mom lives on the other coast, but skypes on a regular basis and visits 2x/year, plus sends cards at least once a month. Both sets of parents help with travel and vacations (they pay for lodging and most incidentals, we pay for our transportation and some incidentals). [/quote]

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