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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm just heading into this phase.  My mom is set to be discharged tomorrow from a second stint in rehab following a stroke.  My dad is the primary caregiver but he is 7 years post his own stroke.  My brother lives 40 minutes away, I'm about 90 minutes.  My brother and I have been talking daily, equally sharing the load for the past 3 months.  But it has already taken a toll on me, my brother, and our wives.  My dad is holding up okay but I know the stress is getting to him.

Right now, I feel like crying as I type this.  I don't know how we're going to adjust to these changes.[/quote]

How old are they? Do they have any long term care insurance?  Do they have funds that could be used for a part time nurses aide?  It is well worth the money to get part time help.  Don't wait until you're burned out.  I can relate to the poster who said that caring for a parent was taking a toll on their own health, especially if you are also taking care of your own children. It really can be that demanding.  My mother did not want a nurses aide, but once I hired the aide, my mother was very happy with the arrangement.  At some point you may need to overrule your parents wishes in that regard.[/quote]

They're 71 and 72.  We're setting up in-home help, respite visits twice a week from their church, and they're connected with a social worker who will help them with services.  We're getting help, its just very stressful watching my mother age so quickly, right before my eyes.  My mother said this weekend that she has accepted that she'll never be able to drive again.  I think we've taken good steps so far, its just the unknown and daily worrying. [/quote]

OP here. Sorry you're going through this PP. It's not easy, and things can change so quickly. Hang in there. [/quote]

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