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[quote=Anonymous]I'd love to be the primary daycare provide for my grandchildren one day.  I wanted to be a SAHM for all my childhood and early adulthood, but I ended up as a single mom and while my child thrived in daycare, I loved my career, and of course I was happy that I could support my family, if it had turned out differently and I could have stayed at home I think I would have loved that.  If my son one day presented me with that opportunity to move and support myself as "nanny and Nana", I'd jump at the chance.

But I also think that there are many families who make the choice to have a grandparent stay at home because of financial difficulties, and I think that's a bad thing.  I think that kids can thrive in all kinds of care situations, but that almost universally the best childcare situations are ones where the primary caregivers are there, at least in part, because they want to be there.  I think there's a fundamental difference, for example, between having a SAHP who wants that role, and a a parent who is unemployed and wishes they were back at work.  I think there's a fundamental difference between someone who chooses to be a daycare teacher, and someone who takes that role because it's the only thing they could find, and I think there's potentially a difference in the quality of care provided by a Grandparent who wants to be providing care because they enjoy a day structured around the needs of small children (note: as an elementary school teacher, I can say that there's a huge difference between "loving" children, and "loving building your life around the needs of someone else's children".  You can be a wonderful loving parent or grandparent without loving the role of full time caregiver), and one who is motivated by fear of strangers or by financial necessity.  [/quote]

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