Reply to Don't eat that

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Don't eat that "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]DH here. I am in a challenging marriag and we both know it. DW did a very nice job today with Easter. She worked hard and I thanked her. I had fallen asleep on the sofa after dinner and I woke up after desert. I started to have some of the apple pie, of which there was less than the carrot cake. She told me not to eat the apple pie, to eat the Carrot Cake because the kids like the apple pie. Our kids are teenagers and eat quite well thank you. Part of our marriage issue is that I have always felt that my DW did not put our relationship first and grow a family unit from that basis. So, in our household I am often told that I am not to eat something that is for the kids, ie we made lamb chops for dinner there's not enough, you can have the leftovers from last night. I got angry at being told to eat what everyone else did not want and yelled - quilty, I have tried to explain that it is not about me eating the leftovers after the whole family has taken their choice. And that is a symptom of how she has treated our relationship, which puts it at risk. She is right to be angry that I yelled on Easter after she worked hard. But, whether when we first married and we couldn't move anywhere because she wanted to be near her Mom, to not being able to discuss job opportunities that would have us leave the area, and now with our kids its the same shit. Don't eat that - the kids want it. Don't watch TV in the FR - go upstairs - the kids want to watch TV here. I understand after all the years of acrimony we are starting to not like each other. But, and not to be completely sexist, I believe there are a subset of women, who view men as financial and sperm providers. So, why does she not get my intense anger at being told eat the leftovers. If she would have put us first, things would be different. How to find the strength to honor my vows and grow old with her ? It's sad.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics