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[quote=Anonymous]Since becoming a mom, I've found it very hard to make new friends that are anything more than casual.  I have several good friends that live in in town but are in a really different phase of life, and several that are in the same part of life as me but live far away.  It's been pretty lonely at times.

About six months ago, a woman (single mom) with a toddler almost the exact same age as mine moved into our building. Over time, we became good friends to the point where she and her DD were spending the majority of the weekend with us. My husband thought she was a little weird and awkward, but was cool with us spending so much time together because our kids love each other, he was really glad to see me making a close friend, and he felt sorry for her since she was doing everything on her own.

A few weeks ago, I got really sick and ended up in bed the whole weekend.  To minimize the chances of infecting our kids, my husband had them out all weekend.  I suggested that he send her a message asking her to join them since the kids love playing together and she is our friend.

Fast forward two weeks and DH tells me that he's been really upset about something that he needs to tell me.  The Monday after the weekend I was sick, he ran into her on the bus on the way to work.  She ended up asking him to get off a stop early with her because she needed to talk to him about something important.  At that point, she told him that she had developed strong feelings for him and thought he should know.  He said he was totally blindsided and immediately told her that he loved me and our family and did not return her feelings.  She then said she wouldn't be able to handle being around him in the future because of it, which he said was fine with him.  He has been going back and forth since then about telling me what happened because he thought he could avoid her and knew it would cause me a lot of pain.  He finally decided I needed to know because she has been around just as much as before, plus she had readily accepted my invitation for her to join us and our extended family for Easter.

I am just totally reeling from this, and feel so hurt and betrayed.  I confronted her about it and she has zero true remorse and sees nothing wrong with what she did.  She said she felt it was the only respectful thing to do (huh???).  When I asked her what she was hoping for with her revelation regarding her feelings (an affair?), she claimed that last thing in the world it was about was her hope for a relationship with him.  Why else would you reveal these kind of feelings to a married man?  Wtf?  She said she would NEVER EVER participate in an affair with a married person since she knew how that felt (her ex husband cheated on her).

Obviously, the friendship is over, but I still can't seem to wrap my head around what happened.  I keep cycling through so many different emotions.  I just feel like an emotional wreck.  Any words of wisdom from someone that has experienced something similar with a friend?  [/quote]

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