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[quote=Anonymous]I'm fed up with his rage issues. While there isn't physical abuse, I know the rage fits (screaming, slamming things, throwing things, etc) are not right. It's emotionally damaging to everyone in the house.

I feel like I've set boundaries before, but find myself in this same position. I've threatened to leave if it doesn't stop, which makes it stop for a while. It could be weeks or months, but it always happens again. I've started what is essentially an intervention. After I got his family involved, he started counseling within a week. The last few bouts of counseling years ago only made him more angry, but I'm trying to be optimistic.

I need to make and stick to abundantly clear boundaries. I need to set up a plan for leaving if and when it happens again. After more than a decade of tolerating this behavior, I'm worried about not being taken seriously this time. I've threatened too many times and didn't act on it. Is there a way to let him know I'm serious? Do I tell him I have a backup plan?

If anyone has found resolution to this sort of problem, I'd like to hear about what worked. What we have now is not sustainable. [/quote]

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