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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=RHinVA][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What kind of response were you expecting?  It doesn't really sound like there was a need for a response, based on your description?[/quote]

I don't know if I was expecting something specific but thought he would acknowledge it, since we've never broached the issue.[/quote]

It sounds like you got closure on the issue, which is good, right?  I mean, you said the things you needed to say?

For him, I'm sure his ego was seriously wounded in the divorce.  I'm sort of going through this now where my dh's main problem is the feeling of rejection.  So maybe he took your statement as getting some of his power back, and feels like if he does not say it back to you, then he regains a power position.  He knows you're expecting a response and he's not going to give it to you.  Does that make sense?  I'm sure you've been dumped in the past and know what a blow to the ego it is.

He also might think you're asking him to say it's okay that you got divorced, when maybe he doesn't feel that way.

Really there's all kinds of things it could be.  Are you sure you stated it in such a way that it warranted a response?[/quote]

Yes, I think it was written in a way that if he wanted to keep the conversation going, he could have. I could see, despite the improved relationship, he may have been [b]shocked I'd say what I did and maybe want to hold onto "some power." 
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Part of my writing it is definitely due to some guilt of hurting him and also to wanting to just break through all the pain we caused each other. I guess I am hopeful we could be friends. [/quote]

Do you think part of the reason why you feel unsettled is because both of you have been using power in your relationship in unhealthy ways, and there was the sense that you had the "upper hand" (since you ended the relationship) until he didn't respond to your email?[/quote]

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