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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think in the short term you can blame divorce on something like physical looks, but in the long term, if you are not taking care of yourself, it is about your relationship with yourself, not anyone else. Yes, going through highly, ridiculously stressful times like divorce leads to unhealthy behaviors like weight gain/loss, alcohol use, possibly depending on sleeping pilll or anxiety meds, neglecting yourself etc., but after the shock wears off, even if you under stress, people who truly value themselves will not fall into bad habits like eating and drinking or starving etc.

That's not a put down BTW. I don't want to sound insensitive - I've gone through a separation and aftermath of his affair so I know what it's like to be at rockbottom. But eventually the best way up is to start truly believing that you deserve to take care of yourself. You may not get time to exercise etc. due to divorce logistics, bearing the parenting burden etc. but there are always healthier choices you can make. I found taking long walks, cooking healthy meals, anything I could do to show myself I was valuing myself, made it easier to believe I did value myself, and that I was worth taking care of.

I'm sorry you both went through a tough time and I hope you are in a better place now. Studies have shown divorced men tend to live shorter lives and be unhealthier overall.

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I completely agree, 100%. Bad results with my docs have kicked me into high gear to be healthier.

I feel so sad when I see him and what has happened to him. I know those divorced men stats.

Thanks for the kind words.[/quote]

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