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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have been struggling with our relationship for 3 years. Our son is 2. I moved out a year and a half ago and since then it has been a roller-coaster. Nothing seems to work. I am in therapy. He is too. But we are not in couples' therapy. He would say that we are finished and then a month later we end up spending time as family. Then we argue again - he doesnt want to be in a committed relationship with me because he doesnt believe I have changed, I get angry because I cannot show him I can be different if we are not in a relationship. Then i blow up. He leaves me again saying that it is enough and we need to move on with our lives. A month ago we spent 5 days in a row together. After the argument he sent me an email saying that it is time to end this and that we can not work our issues out and that I need to move on. I can tell this is the end. I have been trying to talk to him but all I hear is that he is done and not coming back. I am very upset and cannot concentrate on anything. Our son is sensing everything too. I do not know what to do. I know I need to leave him alone but it is so hard to think he is seeing someone. I am afraid of total separation and growing apart. I am a mess. He promised not to mislead me again by asking me to spend time together. And that is a sign of him moving on. What bothers me is that it is easy for him. And I cannot put myself together. What to do???[/quote]

Leave.  You're being strung along by someone who can't commit to making things work.  The fact that he's constantly blaming you is a mindjob.

You don't say why you split in the first place, nor what your part in this is (and there is one).  But if you're not going to therapy together and actively working on the relationship, you need to just let it be done.[/quote]

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