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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's my take.  Because he is an alcoholic/has a drinking problem he's going to interpret anything he hears as permission to keep drinking and twist anything he hears as support for his drinking and denial of the fact that he has a problem in the first place.  On top of that, you are passive, passive-aggressive, manipulative, and unable to give him a clear and absolute "NO" about his drinking because you don't want any responsibility for it and you want to be a princess.  Together, you are a train wreck.

You asked.[/quote]
Thank you for your answer. Every time I have asked about dealing with an alcoholic on here, people day they have to own their own recovery and you can't make them stop. So, based on that advice, I don't make rules for him. I am not his mother.

My therapist does know him, so it's not a matter of me hiding the truth. We originally tried couples counseling with the therapist when I was seeing someone else individually. The therapist has seen first-hand what happens if you suggest he needs to change. First, he threatens to kill himself. Then he threatens to sue the therapist. So this is why we don't do couples counseling.

I think you might be right that together we are a train wreck. I have been struggling for a long time what to do, especially for the kids' sake. But if complete strangers can see this is a train wreck, it!s time to admit it and get out and hope he doesn't spiral downward so that the verbal abuse of the kids we saw all the time before the intervention comes back.[/quote]

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