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[quote=Anonymous]I used to be close to my sister in law (brother's wife) until they got married.  I'm older than my brother, single and likely to remain that way.  (I was in a relationship when brother and she started dating almost 10 years ago but it ended shortly thereafter and I haven't been in a relationship since.)  Everything was fine until brother and she decided to get married.  Depressed about my own relationship struggles, I couldn't even pretend to be excited about the wedding, which dominated 100% of all family conversations. Then they ignored any ideas I offered. I was offended at being asked to give a reading--a reading!--when they had a ton of attendants. I'm my brother's only sibling! Then I was upset because I wanted to give a toast honoring the new couple, but they said only parents were "allowed" to toast. The whole thing put a bit of a damper on our relationship.  Fast forward to the birth of their kid.  Again, I felt crushed at realizing that my baby brother was achieving his dreams of having a family, while I'm all alone. It was really emotionally hard meeting the baby. What's worse is that even my parents are all about the two-year-old--it's like I don't exist in the family any more. And now my SIl and brother give me a rude look every time I try to talk about anything other than successful poops and "brilliant" things their darling said. In any event, this had driven an even bigger wedge into our relationship.  It's gotten to the point where I have no desire to make any effort in my relationship with her.  I still see her a fair amount as a family, but I don't think I've exchanged an individual email with her in over a year.  We used to email somewhat regularly and see each other on our own.  Between feeling put off by her lack of concern about me as an individual and being an incredibly busy employee and volunteer, I just don't feel like I want to spend any of my limited free time and energy on a relationship with her, but I know I should.  Can somebody please give me a pep talk?  Advice on how to mend our relationship.  Do I just suck it up?[/quote]

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