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[quote=Anonymous]No, I have not been to Al-Anon because I have my own therapist who is experienced with alcohol and addiction issues who has been trying to guide me post-intervention.  He is sometimes seeing a therapist because he refuses to go to AA, refuses to admit he has an alcohol problem, lies about how much he drinks (including to his parents in our meeeting, but they knew he was lying because they have seen him drinking), and has been known to go through an entire fifth of Scotch plus several beers and glasses of wine in one weekend (pre-intervention).

My question was:  Why can't he take ownership of what he wants to do?  He didn't order the extra "splash" because he thought I would want it with my dessert.  He ordered it because he wanted it.  And he didn't order a glass of wine himself.  He insisted I order one so he could.  He wants me to give him permission to drink.  I want him to take ownership of his own recovery (or not) and let the chips fall where they may.  But he won't do it.  He would rather ask what I think and then yell at me for it.

He also refuses to follow our doctor's advice about his needing some psych drugs for his anger, because he knows more than the doctor of course.[/quote]

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