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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you need to remember that your SIL's irritation at your wedding choices and her parents' reaction to their grandchild isn't really about you. She has her own things going on that may be getting in the way of her being able to enjoy these major milestones in her brother's life. But that doesn't mean she doesn't like you - it just means she's not able to provide enthusiastic support to you at this phase in life, which you should take in stride because clearly plenty of other people are able to provide that for you and your SIL just needs some space.

Try to accept it for what it is. Continue to include her in any group emails you send out to the family with photos of the baby but don't expect anything back. When she's ready, she will reengage more and that's fine. My own sister had a very strange reaction to the birth of my first child - she was very excited to come visit but then when the child was born, she couldn't bring herself to visit the hospital or to hold the baby. Everyone noticed and was baffled as to what was going on - I told everyone to just let her warm up to the idea in her own time, when she's ready she'll visit, and sure enough at the next family gathering, she was the enthusiastic aunt. I still don't know what the issue was, though I have my guesses, but clearly it was a thing for her and she just needed some time. I'm sure if I had taken it personally, it would have just exacerbated the issue. [/quote]

She probably wants to be married and have a child.  Seeing this in you may be a painful reminder of her dreams that may never be fulfilled and this may make her awkward.  I'd give her a big break.  PP above has the right attitude and advice.[/quote]

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