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[quote=Anonymous]Just wondering what everyone's thoughts are on this. Where do you draw the line when it comes to supporting/caring for/living near elderly parents?  I think my parents are hoping that one day I'll drag DH back to my hometown and we'll live near them but it's just not going to happen. DH doesn't like it there, I don't like it there, I don't want my kids to grow up there, it's too expensive, etc. But my parents won't budge and they believe it's the greatest place in the world (a NJ suburb).

Still, I know they're getting older and they will need some help. I have one sibling but I don't want it all to be on him, either. I don't want to ruin my marriage and condemn DH to living in a place he never wanted to live in for however much longer they last-- could be 30+ years. I don't think they'd follow us where we want to go, either. We have plans to buy a house in a warmer climate and have been talking about these plans for years. But do we toss those plans out the window for my parents and try to make them happen when we're, say 65? Again, I don't know.

I have a cousin who is single and intends on moving closer to her parents and believes that anyone she marries has to be on board with her plans for being near and supporting her parents. I think that can be hard to make happen. Thoughts? Where do you draw the line? I've seen older couples caring for elderly parents for years and the whole situation really ran them into the ground psychologically and health-wise. [/quote]

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