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[quote=Anonymous]DH, DS (13 months old) and I live in a teeny tiny apartment, less than 750 square feet. Before DS was born, whenever the in-laws would come to town they stayed with us. But now that we no longer have a guest room, if we have overnight guests they have to stay on the pull out sofa in our living room.

The in-laws and my mom (who is widowed) will be coming to visit for Easter. In-laws are traveling from the midwest and they've seen DS about 4 times since he was born. My mother is visiting from NJ. We see her about every 1 1/2 - 2 months. When my mom comes to visit, she stays with us, usually only 2-3 nights. My husband and I both find her to be very helpful and an easy houseguests.

DH's parents, however, don't help out around the house when they visit, and they spend a lot of time either watching television or on their computers. They sleep late. They stayed with us last summer when DS was a couple months old, and I found it to be extremely stressful having them in the house. They don't have a sense of personal boundaries - MIL would open the door to our bedroom and wander in looking for DS, without knocking (once while I was in the middle of getting dressed!) FIL loves our son, but he was very little patience and last summer yelled at DS to "knock it off" when he had been super fussy (DS was about 4 months at the time. . . )

DH and I both work FT and we have a nanny coming to the house. We suggested to the in-laws that they stay at a hotel for Easter so that everyone would have more space. My mom will be staying our place for two nights Easter weekend. (She is on a very limited income and can't easily afford a hotel). In-laws will be staying a whole week. They keep insisting that when my mom goes home, they want to stay with us, on the couch, because they have seen so little of DS. DH now wants them to stay with us as well, because he feels badly that they haven't seen our kid as much as my mom has - he says that it's not fair.

I can't tell DH that his parents get on my every last nerve. Our house seems full as it is when there's just the three of us plus nanny. I can't imagine that the inlaws will be very comfortable when the nanny arrives at 7:15 every morning. DH knows that his parents aren't the best house guests, but I can't tell him how much they irritate me. I can handle them in small doses, but 5 nights with them would put me over the top. The day after they fly out I have a major work project due, which they know about, and I'm worried that I'll be so stressed about that, that their presence will push me over the edge.

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