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[quote=Anonymous]I posted on the other thread about how we have my mom living with us and it's the best thing that ever happened to us. I would proceed with caution in your case.

I think the little criticisms and breaking your rules that you can overlook when your kids are just visiting her will be very different when she is living with you full time. Also, the reason our arrangement works so well is that my mom and I have always gotten along - she is a very easy person to get along with and doesn't ever criticize - and I'm not sure this would work if her personality was different. And the clutter thing would really worry me, since I am a neat freak and despise clutter. My mom sold and donated almost everything she owned to move in with us, since we don't have a ton of space.

I think if you are going to move forward, you would really need to talk openly about those being your concerns. And I might recommend that you think about doing the live-in arrangement on a trial basis -- three months? -- then sit down and talk again about how it's going. If you can't be really open with each other on this stuff, there's a good chance that problems could arise.

By the way, my mom feeds my kids more junk than I would, lets them watch more TV than I would and buys them more toys and clothes than I would like. But I let all that stuff roll off my back since the benefits of having her help are so great. And this is often what Grandmas do, right? My kids know the rules are different with me. So it's also a matter of what you are willing to accept. [/quote]

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