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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious to see if we can articulate this further and get into specifics. I'm a single woman in her mid twenties, working in a white collar job where I earn in the low six figures. I decided to write this thread after reading the Female Lawyers in New York thread. I'm similar to that OP in that it's very hard for me to meet a man. I'm good looking and well spoken but I just can't flirt. So I decided that this year I am just going to start working on improving myself in every way until I am "wife material". Can men chime into this thread with input, and successful wives also?

Obviously, it goes without saying that physical fitness and maintaining your looks in every way (skin, hair, teeth, nails, etc) is paramount. And so is having your own income and enjoying your work.

Do you also need to be really financially savvy? A perfect cook and homemaker and hostess? I admit these are things I need to work on. I'm "financially savvy" in the sense that I live within my budget and save every month, but I definitely don't know how to follow the stock market. And I'm a decent cook but by no means an amazing one, and I honestly am not that great at throwing parties - I never had much practice because I'm a raging introvert.

What are other traits that make a woman more desirable as a wife? And what are good ways to learn those traits?[/quote]

Hello OP.  You remind me of me from so many moons ago.

My mom always said that every shoe has its mate.  Unless you want to be a Stepford wife and end up divorced in 8 years, don't try to sculpt yourself into some "good wife" stereotype.

The good husbands-to-be are all looking for their personal perfect fit of the perfect wife, and the perfect wife is someone who let's you know that she will love you and take care care of you and be your unwavering lover and friend.  But this takes on different meaning for different people.  You can't possibly be this for all the men you meet.

So, just be your happy self, go out there and date, and have self-respect.  If you want to sleep with a guy on the first date, then by all means do so, but please don't do it to try to make him like you.

I met my DH when I was 27.  It was abysmal until then.  My track record wasn't very good at all.  But then, bam!  I suddenlt met this guy, and we hit it off amazingly.  I had very good career prospects, I was thinner and youthful, and I could cook a mean dinner.  But I also drank, smoked and cursed like a sailor.  Through it all, he saw someone to love.  I quit smoking, only drink socially, and now have house, kids, pets.

Don't worry.  Take care of yourself, keep optimistic, and if you fail once, just pick yourself up and continue dating.  But you must go out there!  You won't meet anyone if you come straight home from work and sit in front of the TV.  Date date date.  That doesn't mean to sleep around, but meet many men for coffee, join running clubs or whatever, just get out there.[/quote]

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