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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious to see if we can articulate this further and get into specifics. I'm a single woman in her mid twenties, working in a white collar job where I earn in the low six figures. I decided to write this thread after reading the Female Lawyers in New York thread. I'm similar to that OP in that it's very hard for me to meet a man. I'm good looking and well spoken but I just can't flirt. So I decided that this year I am just going to start working on improving myself in every way until I am "wife material". Can men chime into this thread with input, and successful wives also?

Obviously, it goes without saying that physical fitness and maintaining your looks in every way (skin, hair, teeth, nails, etc) is paramount. And so is having your own income and enjoying your work.

Do you also need to be really financially savvy? A perfect cook and homemaker and hostess? I admit these are things I need to work on. I'm "financially savvy" in the sense that I live within my budget and save every month, but I definitely don't know how to follow the stock market. And I'm a decent cook but by no means an amazing one, and I honestly am not that great at throwing parties - I never had much practice because I'm a raging introvert.

What are other traits that make a woman more desirable as a wife? And what are good ways to learn those traits?[/quote]

I am a successful wife. I have been happily married for more than 15 years, and am still head over heels for my DH. We have kids, dogs, a house and a comfortable lifestyle.

I am in no way what anyone would consider "wife material" if you are going by physical appearances and being a perfect cook, homemaker or hostess. I am, however, wife material in that I understand my DH and respond to his emotional needs. I put our relationship first, above everything else, including our kids (which gets me flamed on here). We are partners in life and for life, which extends so far beyond your limited "wife material" notion.

Forget about becoming something you are not in order to attract a husband. Be emotionally healthy and look for someone else who is emotional healthy. Believe me, maturity, mutual respect and communication are far more paramount to any relationship than your teeth, skin and hair could ever be. Indeed, if you meet a man who loves you for your teeth, skin and hair, you are in for a terrible shock, because your looks will not last forever. Be loved for who you are, not what you look like.[/quote]

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