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[quote=Anonymous]Woman here (in a serious relationship due to Match).

These are my rules:

-While you don't want to be too picky, do review profiles for obvious red flags.  (Examples - guys who can't write well or have spent little time preparing a profile, guys with lots of party pictures or pictures of themselves with their car, guys who sound bitter about or not over past relationships, guys with young kids who don't share custody, guys who sound like they have money problems, guys who seem like they're players.)

-Don't both winking or marking guys as your favorites.  The best way to make the Match algorithms work for you is to proactively email guys who are good matches for you.  The more you email, the more your profile will be placed on the daily matches sent to guys with characteristics you are looking for, which means more guys seeing you.

-You can also create a search based on certain criteria (location, age, education, etc.), which might be helpful.

-Do invest in a few thoughtful emails to see how a guy responds - you are looking for someone who is willing to put the time in to send you thoughtful responses, which means he likely has a strong interest in meeting someone special.

-Do not engage in electronic (email, phone, text) relationships.  Ideally, after 2-3 emails or approximately a week, a guy who is interested in you and in dating seriously is going to ask to meet you in person.  If that doesn't happen, but you are still interested, you should suggest meeting in person.

-Keep initial dates short, no more than 1 to 1.5 hours.  I always preferred meeting for a drink after work - it was quick, easy, and didn't create a huge expectation.  (If you do think, keep it to one drink, have a plan to get yourself home, and have a reason for leaving or cutting it short for dates that aren't going well.)

-A guy who is quality and who thinks you are too is going to ask you out again either at the end of the date, in the follow-up text, or at least w/in 24 hours.  If he doesn't try to lock down a second date quickly, then he either isn't that into you, and he is either going to disappear soon after or keep you strung along while looking for someone "better."

-Do send a follow-up thank you text or email that evening, or by early morning.  If you want to see him again, let him know that.  If not, use a standard letdown, like "It was really great getting to meet in person, but to be honest I just don't see us as a couple.  I wish you luck on Match."[/quote]

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