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[quote=Anonymous]From a guy who met DW via online dating.

Being on match is not a signal that you're desperate, nor is simply looking at a guy's profile. Since he knows you're interested, he may drop you a note or you can go ahead and contact him. Either way, I'd suggest a few email exchanges and a phone conversation/Skype session or two before your first meeting.

Match is the shotgun approach. You look at lots and lots of fairly superficial profiles, see if you find people who look interesting and take it from there. An advantage of online dating is that it forces you to actually communicate before you meet.

Some of the others (eHarmony being the other extreme) are more intensive, require more information and provide a level of matching between your profile and the people you're looking for.

However, whatever service you use, don't get too invested in someone based only on email/talking. The thing about humans is that we are communicating now in a way that we didn't evolve to do. We evolved to evaluate people face-to-face, so when our evaluation system is denied details (due to using email/phone) our imagination fills them in - and that can result in your convincing yourself about how wonderful a person is based on what you imagine rather than the facts.

Good luck![/quote]

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