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[quote=Anonymous][u]Background:[/u]My mother is 62 and nearing retirement but still very active. She has some financial struggles, mainly because of bad money management, health bills, and her love of shopping. She is currently renting an apartment but has expressed some interest in moving in with us. DH is supportive of her moving in and said he would be happy either way. She would have her own room but it would be on the same floor (albeit separate ends) as ours.

[u]Positives:[/u]If she moves in with us, she would continue to work (but shift to part time) to pay her own personal bills. She would help out with the kids (2 yrs and 6 months) on the weekends or evenings as she currently does. This is mainly an arrangement to help her but it also us by having another adult helping out with the kids. I would feel better knowing that I’ve done the right thing – and I say this because in my culture it is a big shock that she didn’t move in as soon as DH and I built our home.

[u]Negatives:[/u]She doesn’t always follow my “mommy rules” with the kids, i.e., giving them juice and cookies etc., but I don’t stress about it since she doesn’t live with us and it’s not a constant things. She gives me constant advice on what to do with the kids but I usually ignore or say “hmmm yes” and move along unless I’m interested. She has a lot of stuff at her place now and I will not allow my house to become cluttered – so much so that I donate a lot of the junk she buys or brings over.

We don’t always get along but as I’ve hit my mid-30s I’ve realized that (a) she made the best decisions she could to give me the best opportunities she could (b) those decisions have molded me into a strong person (c) she loves my kids more than anything and is an amazing grandmother (d) she will die one day and I would miss her dearly

[u]Question:[/u]What would you do? Have you had a parent move in? What are some tips or pointers that you would recommend?
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