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[quote=Anonymous]My nephew is an only--my sister divorced her abusive husband and neither of them had more children. He started college last fall and is a delightful, bright, social young man. My sister was sort of sad to only have one, since there are five of us siblings, but was able to provide a terrific childhood with lots of travel and camps (and now is paying for only one college tuition.)

I also have an only who is pretty terrific, too. (He's only five, so we have a ways to go.) As mentioned upthread, our son has many, many friends, so we can fill our house with kids any time we want to. We are both able to be fully engaged with school and extracurricular activities when we need or want to, and don't feel the stress of shuttling multiple kids around that my other siblings are enduring.

In our case, my spouse put the kibosh on fertility treatments that would have been needed to have a second. We did need to work through that to make sure we were both on the same page, so I think it's important to make sure that both spouses address any lingering resentments about the decision to stick with one.

Frankly, there are many couples who are having onlies now, whether it's because of age, finances, or wanting to travel more, whatever. The days when a family's prosperity (and a woman's worth) was judged by the number of children they had are behind us.

Good luck![/quote]

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