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[quote=Anonymous]I need to vent...I'm stressed out, my period is late and I'm very hormonal. I realize this is long but I have no one else to talk to.

H and I made tentative plans to go out without DC on Saturday night. It wasn't finalized but I had arranged for my sister to watch DC. All of the sudden, his SIL [b]emails him only[/b] to ask if we could watch their 2 kids at our house on Sat. night starting at 8 pm, we would put them to bed and BIL/SIL would come home whenever and stay the night as well. H says yes and acts like our plans were nothing to begin with. Since DC has been around, we've gone out a handful of times alone....like 5 times max. FYI, our DC is almost 3 and their kids are 8 and 5.

I'm pissed. Not only am I pissed that SIL didn't include me in the email request (more on that) but also that H decides our plans were no big deal so that his brother and SIL can go out (they go out all the time - on multi day international trips even, without their kids).

I sent an email to SIL saying I had told her earlier that we were going to drop off DC at my sisters so we could go out for a few hours because I thought those were our plans. I had no idea about us having to watch their kids. So can I just get some details please.

She writes me back but also includes my husband - something that she's done before and I had a huge issue with (last time it was a bcc but which was worse). I don't understand why communication between the 2 of them is always without me but she readily adds him to my emails with her.

She says if we can watch her kids ONLY IF ITS NO BIG DEAL. That it's just if we didn't have plans. That she could go to the fundraiser without her husband so he could watch the kids.Etc etc.  fucking H writes her back separately saying (yes I read his email because he's done this to me so many times):
" I know you are being nice but I really wish you didn't send this email, it won't surprise me if (wife) responds. With (wife), there is a lot of management I have to do, and some times, it doesn't help when you guys, or Mom, give her wide open options for things that don't need to be so wide open. There are plenty of times when we take (wife's sister's) kids, even overnight, so one night (and it isn't even a full night) for your kids is not even a question that needs to be raises. it's my pleasure to have them - so again, i think some times, once things are decided, don't keep giving (wife) an option to cancel or give her an out."

HOLY SHIT! Are you kidding me? So much disrespect and so much fucking secrecy. I have such disdain for H right now that I don't know why I was even trying to do date night. 
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