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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Title says it all. Before my brother met her, he would come over all the time, babysit for me, play with my daughters, take us to lunch, call at least two-three times a week, then he meets her, gets married, and bam, we never see him anymore. He only calls maybe once a week, never comes over, and doesn't bring his daughter over, claiming they are "too busy." The last two years have been so incredibly crushing losing this relationship. I have no relationship with my neice either- for they are always doing stuff with SIL's sisters. She wants "boundaries", which my family thinks is outrageous.[b] No one should have to call to see family.[/b][/quote]

I see why she is trying to set up boundaries.

Everyone needs boundaries.  And yes, even family should have to call before stopping over.  It's just polite.

I think the problem is that you are having a difficult time with boundaries, with the recognition that your brother has his own life now and that you have to respect him as an adult.

I would be upset if inlaws just stopped by unannounced.  And if it happened more than once, I'd tell my husband that he needs to establish boundaries.
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