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[quote=Anonymous]Yes another 1st world problem.

DH spent several thousand on a birthday gift for me. While the gift is lovely, there are many things much cheaper that I would have liked just as much (or more) frankly. We've been working hard to increase retirement savings, savings for a trip to that we want to take, and savings for our (eventual) "upgrade" house that would accommodate our growing family.

I can't help but feel frustrated (and admittedly) angry that he did this. Mostly because the jewelry cannot be simply taken back (ie local return), but we must spend several hundred in restocking fees and insured shipping to send it back. So at the end of the day, I feel guilty for keeping the gift as it keeps our family from achieving our mutually decided upon financial goals. I feel angry that sending it back involves several errands/chores for me (3 to be exact). And I feel overwhelmingly frustrated that he didn't ask me but made a unilateral decision to spend a lot of the family's money on this. If he had just asked me, we could have found something MUCH less expensive that would have been just as nice. I get that birthday presents are supposed to be a surprise, but this seems like a ridiculous price to pay for the surprise factor.

FWIW, DH out earns me significantly. We live comfortably with zero debt and it's not like he charged it to a credit card. However we have a ways to go to be able to provide the lifestyle we want for our children and ourselves. We have always prioritized saving first, buying on sale/used, making big purchases ($200+) a family decision, etc. So this was very out of character, but I know his heart was in a good place.[/quote]

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