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[quote=Anonymous]So different, to the point where I sense they don't even like each other much. It's not that they fight a lot, it's that my parents tend to be drawn to people just like themselves- from the same backgrounds, very ethnic, gregarious, pushy, everything's an emergency, bare-your-soul-to-all sort of people. They come from the same east coast type of neighborhoods where everyone went to the same Catholic school, knew everyone's business, went to the same high schools, married people from around the block. My DH, though, is a more laid-back Pacific coast guy when doesn't share everything about himself upfront and prefers hiking on a Sunday to sitting around with the in-laws griping about politics. Even after knowing him for several years, my mother still says she feels like she doesn't "KNOW" my DH-- as in, he won't call her mom, he doesn't confide in her, and he doesn't sit with my father watching the news or football with him on weekends and complain about work. DH, I think, could really care less if he even sees them. His parents are hands off, also laid back people who mind their own business and could care less what I call them. The reason I have some concern about this situation is because lately whenever we see my parents, he and them end up in a tiff, usually started when my mom gets too nosy and demanding. I tell her to back off but her answer is, you're MY daughter and he's MY son-in-law-- of course I want to know these things, or of course I have something to say because my grandchild is involved in your choices and he's my #1 priority! I've been toying with the idea of visiting them with GC without DH but I just feel like that's a bad pattern to start. Thoughts? I'm not asking him to love them and frankly, one of the things I love about DH is his personality and "take life as it comes, don't look for problems" way of living, but I just don't want to spend every visit waiting for a verbal scuffle to erupt that ends with my mother declaring "but we care about you!!" or some other emotionally-laden statement caused by DH asking her to back off. [/quote]

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